LACK OF COMMUNICATION

                I don’t think that this theme can be represented using a scientific essay, thus I will present some situations, it doesn’t matter if they are real or not because it doesn’t mean that they can’t occur in the real world.

                First situation
Silviu is a student in the 11th form at a theoretic high school. He learns pretty well, is the pride of his parents, wants to become a doctor, that’s why he chose the Natural Sciences section. He belongs to a good family, his mom is a architect, his father is the chairman at a company and Silviu is the only child. But his parents are always on the road and he hardly speaks with them on the phone or sees them in the weekend. The parents being busy with their careers spend to little time with their kid and though he is already 17, he is always treated like a little child by his parents. He stays with his grandparents who give him much more liberty than he ought to have and he doesn’t know what to do with it. He doesn’t have too many friends because all of his ages consider him a boring person, always too calm. This determines Silviu to take too serious the few conversations and the moments which he has with those that talk to him. He’s most of the time made a fool and many bully him in front of others and all he does is just to smile because he’s too scared to fight back.
                On one unfortunate day when Silviu is made fun at again, Marian, a classmate, notices what happens and Silviu’s careless reaction. During break, Silviu is invited by Marian and two of his best friends at a “juice”. Silviu is a little stunned because it’s the first time when Marian talks to him but because he wants to have friends accepts the invitation. Another classmate, hearing what the four were talking, said that “I want to come, too!”. Marian shouts at him: ”You weren’t invited!”, trying to put Silviu in a better light so that no one would treat him as they used to by bullying him and making bad jokes. Silviu, very delighted, leaves with his new friends to a terrace of a restaurant which is at a considerable distance from school.
                “Guys, we won’t be on time for class” says Silviu. “Have no worry, the religion teacher supposes that the absents are of another religion. After, at PI I’ll excuse you”. Considering what Marian just said, he sits down on the table among the others. When the waiter comes to take the order, the three order each a pint of beer. Silviu gets really drunk because it is the first time when he drinks alcohol. He wakes up hangover at home on the staircases in front of the door. He can’t remember what happened, he has a terrible headache. He tip-toes into the house, goes past his grandmother which watches TV and when she asks “Where have you been?”, he responds briefly “I had a walk with my friends”. When he gets into his room, he throws himself onto the bed and falls asleep.
                The next day he talks with his new friends about what happened the day before. They schedule that the next day, all for of them to go for a drink. Next day, he invites his friends to the planned drink. The boys pretend to be sad and say that they can’t come because they can’t pay the bill. Silviu, which receives lots of money from his parents, says the he’ll make a treat.
                Such thing happened also in the following days. So the boy becomes an alcoholic. He misses from school by the days. After more than a month, the form master being stunned by the student’s absences and changed behavior, he contacts his parents. The parents, being surprised of what they’ve just heard, try to contact the boy. He is nowhere to be found. The grandmother says that he left for a walk with his classmate. At 11 PM, his mother contacts the police. After hours of searching, Silviu is found. The boy’s “corpse” was at almost 100 yards far from his favorite pub, being left there by his friends who were scared and didn’t know what to do.

Second situation
                Alina is a student at a technical college. She is ambitious, does not accept low grades, and dreams to become an architect. Her parents do everything for her, although they are not doing so well financially, they delight her as much as they can. Alina is appreciated by everyone, teachers, parents, colleagues. She enjoys every appreciation, each compliment. But Alina is not very popular among her colleagues and she feels always alone. She wants to have a friend. She falls in love of Cristi , a bachelor, and the beautiful girls from her class always talk about him. Her ambition doesn’t let her down and with little effort she starts a friendship with Cristi.
                He, which is the most popular boy in the high school, speaks well about Alina in front of their colleagues. Alina always tried to make everything for Cristi, because she was afraid to lose his friendship. So, Alina goes with Cristi in different clubs and discos in the city. He takes advantage of his new friend’s naivity, influences Alina and changes her behavior, so that she matches with his life style. Alina drinks as much as Cristi, she has learned to smoke, to curse, to take advantage of the liberty given by her parents.
                Until one unhappy night, when after they went in a club where she drank with her boyfriend, she wakes up in bed near Cristi. Tries to stay calm, and sees that her boyfriend is still sleeping, she dresses up and slips out of his apartment and goes home. After a confrontation with her parents, she lies and doesn’t tell them the truth. The two don’t see each other a while. Alina starts to have nauseas. A little paranoid, she buys from a drugstore a pregnancy test. She makes it without everyone to know, and the result is positive. Frightened, she starts to cry, but she doesn’t know what to tell her parents. She tries to speak with Cristi. The boy, when he receives the news, he gets scared, refuses Alina and curses her. Frightened of the boy’s reaction, she runs away. Crying, she gets home, and her parents ask her why is she crying. She lies, and tells her parents that she got a bad grade and that she is going to go for a walk. After a few minutes in fresh air she decides to tell her parents about the pregnancy test. But first, she wants to have courage, and she makes what Cristi taught her. She goes to a bar and orders a whisky. The waiter, a little surprised, brings what she ordered. Alina drinks it very fast and she orders another one. Although she drank some glasses of whisky, Alina’s courage doesn’t come. A colleague passes by the terrace and sees her, tries to speak with her, but Alina is angry and doesn’t want to talk with anyone. Worried, her colleague calls Alina’s parents. They are shocked by their daughter’s behavior and take the needed measures.

                The conclusion
                As you can see, in both situation, the teenagers got to consume a big quantity of alcohol, because of lack of communication. Silviu was spending too little time with his parents and the lack of communication determined him to enter in that entourage. Alina got also to alcohol because of the fear to communicate.
                If you find yourself in one of these situations, don’t hesitate to communicate. If your parents aren’t able to listen to you, there are always friends, teachers or form masters whom you can address. Don’t be afraid to go to the psychologist. There is a difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist. If you go to the psychologist doesn’t mean you are insane, it means that you need someone to can talk to.
Not taken into consideration of his friends and unhappy by himself, the young man will hesitate to speak about his problem and frequently persists to refuse to admit his problem. Speak with your friends, admit that alcohol is your enemy, have confidence in you and ask for help, because it is a nature’s law to help each other!